The Quiet Greatness of Ordinary Lives

My dad, George Hensler, was one of seven children: Paul, Patricia, George, Daniel, Virginia, and the twins Margie and Mary. His father, Nelson George Hensler, worked as a butcher and died far too young at just 46 years old. After his father died, Dad left school early and went to work to help support the family. 

My mom, Dorothy “Dotty” Gray Hensler, came from an even larger family. She was one of thirteen children born to Clarence and Genevieve Gray. Her father worked first as a streetcar conductor and later as a printer, but he too died young. 

The older I get, the more I realize how much hardship both families endured. Poverty. Loss. Responsibility arriving too early in life. My grandmother, Genevieve Wright Gray, even spent part of her childhood in an orphanage with her siblings. 

And yet somehow, through all of it, they kept going.

That may be the deepest inheritance they passed on to us.

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West 8th Street

Shortly after I was born, Mom and Dad bought their first home at 4097 West 8th Street. Nearly all of my earliest memories live there. 

I never really knew my mother with the beautiful long black hair she had when she was young. The mom I remember had the short hairstyle from the old photographs — standing in the backyard, smiling easily, always busy caring for someone else.

I remember sitting on the back porch making my “special dirt mixture” while Mom came to the door pretending to admire my masterpiece. Every spring we planted marigolds together. Looking back now, I think the flowers mattered less than the simple act of doing something together.

I also remember throwing a baseball for hours against the brick wall beside the house while Mom cooked dinner in the kitchen. The sound must have echoed through the entire house, but I never once remember her telling me to stop. That patience was part of who she was.

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Small Things That Became Big Things

Because we lived beside church and school, we managed with only one car, and Mom did not drive for many years. Dad would sometimes drop Mom off at Kroger while he took us kids to Mt. Echo Tavern on Saturday afternoons to watch sports on one of the only color televisions around. I still remember watching the first Super Bowls there before we finally bought our own color TV in time for the moon landing in 1969. 

At church, Mom encouraged my singing and pushed me to join the boys’ choir. That choir eventually took us to television appearances, Music Hall, the Summer Opera at the Zoo, and even a Christmas album. But what I remember most was not the performances. It was the way Mom looked at me when I sang.

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Tough Love and Quiet Strength

Whenever I asked for help with homework, Mom and Dad usually gave the same answer:

“Read the chapter. They wouldn’t ask you something that isn’t in the book.” 

At the time, I found it frustrating. I wanted answers. I wanted rescue.

But over time, that simple response taught me independence, confidence, and persistence. They did not always solve problems for us. Instead, they quietly taught us that we could solve them ourselves.

That lesson lasted far longer than any homework assignment.

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Christmas Eve and the “Pretties”

Some of my happiest memories are from Christmas Eve. Dad would pile us into the car and drive us around Cincinnati to look at Christmas lights — what he called “the pretties.” 

Santa always had perfect timing.

By the time we returned home, the gifts had somehow appeared beneath the tree.

Looking back now, I realize Mom and Dad created magic for us while carrying burdens we were too young to see.

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What Faith Looked Like

When my little brother Donny died, Mom gathered us onto the staircase and somehow found the strength to speak through unimaginable grief. 

She told us we now had a special angel in heaven.

She said we had given a precious gift to God, and God had given a precious gift back to us.

I cannot fully comprehend how a mother could endure that pain and still comfort her children with such faith and love. But that moment revealed who she truly was.

Father Jack later described her perfectly at her memorial mass:

“Her Catholic faith penetrated to the very core of her being, to the very marrow of her bones.” 

Her faith was not performance. It was how she endured life.

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Rich in What Mattered

Mom and Dad raised ten loving children with very little money. There was only one car. Haircuts happened in the kitchen. Most of us probably had one pair of shoes for school, church, and play. 

But somehow we never felt poor.

We were rich in what mattered:
love,
faith,
laughter,
family,
and the certainty that someone would always be there for you.

That is the true story of George and Dotty Hensler.

Not famous people.

Not wealthy people.

Just two ordinary Americans who quietly built a life of extraordinary love.